This year, we observe the 30th anniversary of Men’s Mental Health Week—a crucial moment to acknowledge and reflect on the health challenges faced by men in our lives.
Unfortunately, our society often stigmatises men’s struggles, labelling them as “weak”, “boring” and sometimes even “yucky”, making even the smallest struggles feel like a threat to one’s masculinity.
Men’s health statistics paint a grim picture, with shorter life expectancies and higher suicide rates compared to women.
Many men suffer in silence, unable to seek help due to societal pressures.

Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but in our industry, many men have it very tough!
The constant pressure and reminder that our industry is predominantly male-dominated can leave one feeling extremely guilty, inadequate, and unworthy.
What often slips through the cracks is the fact that it is only the 1% of this gender that dominates the industry, while the rest, the 99%, are often forgotten.
Men, too, have firsthand experience of the demoralising and frustrating effects of abuse, exclusion and discrimination.

While addressing issues like the gender pay gap, equal opportunities, and combating abuse and harassment are undoubtedly crucial commitments at the top of our list, genuine transformation begins with eradicating prejudice and evaluating professionals based on their individuality rather than relying on stereotypes or what looks best on paper (Brands I am looking at you). 🤌
True progress lies in recognising and valuing the unique contributions and talents of each person, irrespective of gender or any other defining characteristic. This involves creating an inclusive environment where everyone feels respected and appreciated for their individual strengths and capabilities.
Instead of focusing only on superficial measures and stereotypes, we should aim to create a genuine and inclusive environment.
Such an environment addresses not just the obvious signs of inequality but also the deeper, often hidden, biases that sustain and reinforce these inequalities. Essentially, it’s about going beyond the obvious and tackling the root causes of discrimination to create lasting and meaningful change.
This ensures that every professional is given a fair opportunity to excel and contribute meaningfully to their field, paving the way for a more just and dynamic industry.
Before anything else, we are all humans. Men, Women and our LGBTQ+ friends, regardless of gender or orientation, we all experience hardships.
Pain is a universal language that unites us all.
Whether it’s a painful breakup, the loss of a loved one, or toxic environments like a hostile workplace, we all navigate through life’s highs and lows.
As an international bartender living in Australia for nearly eight years,
I understand the challenges of being far from home. The absence of familiar comforts during tough times can be incredibly isolating.
Bartenders and travellers alike face this pressure daily, engaging with new people on the other side of the bar while silently battling their own struggles.
While hospitality demands positivity and energy, it often overlooks the emotional toll it takes on its workers.
Always smile, always be positive, those are the rules.
However, behind the façade of the ever-smiling bartender lies a human with their own share of ups and downs.
Many in the hospitality industry struggle with mental health issues exacerbated by excessively demanding work environments, stupid long hours, and stupid schedules, often compounded by abusive interactions with patrons and/or management and ownership.
Ironically, while bartenders undergo Responsible Service of Alcohol (RSA) training, management rarely receives mandatory training on mental health and workplace culture. This oversight perpetuates toxic work environments and neglects the well-being of all employees.
Moreover, the nature of the industry exposes workers to substance abuse and alcoholism, further worsening mental health issues.
The culture of excessive drinking among bartenders normalises destructive behaviours that harm both physical and mental health in the long run.
Transitioning to a sales role within the hospitality sector opened my eyes to the broader industry dynamics.
Negative workplace conditions not only affect bartenders but also ripple through to all the other stakeholders.
Feeling ostracised or undervalued by peers can be disheartening, driving passionate and talented professionals away from the industry.

On the other hand, staying positive is crucial.
Let go of anything that impedes your happiness and stride forward with purpose!
Embracing the concept of yin and yang reminds us that life’s challenges come with opportunities for growth and resilience.
Despite the challenges, life is beautiful, meant to be lived with joy and surrounded by loved ones.
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